Thursday, September 11, 2008

on being married to a cop...

I don't think that most people can being to understand what it's like to be married to a cop. its hard. it's stressful. I'm not talking about the bad wrap cops get for infidelity. I'm talking about sheer time.

for the majority of you, you know you will spend all major holidays with your spouse. you'll eat dinner together. you'll sleep inthe same bed at night.

let's say john makes this his primary career, and works for 30 years as a cop. because of the rotation schedule, I will spend ten years not eating dinner with my husband. I'll spend a different 10 years not sleeping with him at night. holidays will be rescheduled, as well as vacations and birthday parties.

Most of you know without doubt that your spouse will be home at the end of their day. I'll spend over 62,000 hours wondering if my spouse is safe that hour. I'll worry about occupational hazards like blowing out a knee or being shot. I'll worry for the safety of my family when he isn't there because someone knows he's a cop. I'll worry about people being afraid of us because they saw his off-duty weapon. Or someone trying to grab it and use it against him.

so the next time you get pulled over, the next time you get pissed at a police officer...remember that they're just a person doing their job so they can go home to their family at the end of the day. and you know what, go ahead and give your spouse a hug...show them how much they mean to you.

1 comment:

A said...

true dat. it is a tough thing to do full time as a primary career. ditto on giving cops a break next time you get pulled over, we're just doing our job.